Poor Paula Deen (The Addict)

Posted 1/25/2012 11:19:00 AM

It is always sad to me when smart people make stupid mistakes. Believe me, I get it, I’ve made several myself but I’ve learned from them and they have made me a better person. Fortunately the mistakes I chose did not have life threatening issues.

I consider Paula Deen an addict. Like an alcoholic she cannot help herself and she continues to abuse herself by engaging in her addiction. Like Charlie Sheen, she even flaunts her addiction and tries to get everyone around her to indulge in this addiction. She preaches the value of high cholesterol, trans fats, and obesity. And, like the smart woman she is, she capitalizes off the misery she is creating. Unfortunately for her she has been caught in her own web of destruction.

A few years back Paula was diagnosed with diabetes, now the 15th cause of death in the United States, and it ...

How Do You Want to Die?

Posted 12/14/2011 9:51:00 AM

Seriously, how do you want to feel when that time comes and you die? Some people have a very negative feeling and fear about this inevitable event but, take it from me, as someone who has died before, it’s really not so bad. It’s that moment just before death that I’m interested in sharing with you. In that space where everything stops and your life flashes before you will you be happy or will you be sad, angry, depressed, etc.?

Recently I was driving down the freeway after a particularly disappointing date and a semi-truck swerved into my driving lane just a few feet in front of me. The driver quickly corrected his mistake and no harm was done but it was as if the Universe was giving me a NOT so gentle reminder. I was ruminating on my bad luck dating, how I’ve had some wonderful men come into ...

Healing Hang-Over

Posted 11/21/2011 11:58:00 AM

I’ve got a healing hang-over! Unlike the 70s super hit of a similar wording this hang-over isn’t so pleasant. I can hear you already asking, “What is a healing hang-over”? Well, it’s quite simple actually and not far from those other kinds of hang-overs that movies are made of. After doing healing work (whether it’s physical like acupuncture, massage, or chiropractic, or emotional like Somatic Trauma Release, EMDR, or Hypnotherapy) clients often feel a sense of release, even euphoria, that lifts them up to a place of feeling better. Many times they feel better then they have in years and they can “see the light at the end of the tunnel”, life after the healing is complete. It’s a wonderful place to be and it’s often accompanied by a process of letting go all kinds of things, physical, emotional, and spiritual, that they no longer need. The hang-over comes in ...

Burn the Past

Posted 10/21/2011 2:16:00 PM

It's a strange the world of Holistic or Integrative Healing there is this fear instinct to hold onto the things that cause us pain. We see what is holding us back but we sometimes aren't willing to let go of it. For example, I was working with a client recently who has an addiction to sugary foods. He knows that these foods are bad for him, that his body hurts when he eats them, that he risks putting himself in the hospital when he does ingest them, and that they make him miserable to be around. Yet, he eats them anyway. He is so connected to his childhood solution for drowning out his pain (literally putting himself into a food coma) that he can't let go of the wound.

Another client is so identified by what happened to her in childhood that she actively tells everyone about the abuse ...

Healing—Body, Mind, Spirit

Posted 10/13/2011 9:26:00 AM

True deep healing on all levels of our existence (body, mind, spirit) requires us to work through the dis-ease with another person(s). It’s an amazing thing but you can’t really heal completely on your own. It’s a shared experience and you need the “energy” of another person rooting for you. For thousands of years we as a species have sought out this energetic support from others to heal ourselves; the Medicine Man, Witch, Berdasch, Doctor, and Priest. Even in modern medicine we’ve discovered that it’s often the relationship with the care provider that creates the healing. Studies have been done where identical treatments have been offered to patients suffering from the same dis-ease and the patients who healed were the patients who felt confident in and liked their doctor. While those who didn’t heal didn’t like or feel confident in their doctor. These studies suggest that it’s the relationship and ...

The Critical Mind Says It Can’t Be Easy

Posted 9/28/2011 10:01:00 AM

Recently I had to take some of my own advice. I heard myself whining about how difficult it has been running this website on my own, looking for a marketing/sales manager, and still maintaining my private practice while starting a little radio show, managing 20 bloggers (who are caught up in their own stuff), and figuring out sponsorship for ten new episodes. I had to stop myself and remind myself that I chose this. I created this. This is what makes me happy! It’s my passion to help people heal and be of service. My Critical Mind (what some call Ego) was invested in what makes me miserable and this Critical Mind always likes to be right. My Critical Mind says it has to be hard…so it is. Thankfully my Higher Self chimes in and reminds me to live in the moment and to find Grace and serenity. Then, suddenly ...

Life Loves ME!

Posted 9/22/2011 12:00:00 AM

Recently I heard a fantastic spiritual speaker, Jacob Glass, proclaim “Life loves ME”! It brought a huge smile to my face as I let those words bounce around inside of me. Life does love me. I’ve found myself using this energy for everything I do. It’s my thought when something goes “wrong” and when something goes my way. When someone cuts me off on the freeway I think that driver loves me and I no longer need to yell at them. It diffuses my anger and let’s me settle into a place of serenity. I even found myself thinking that their cutting me off possibly helped me avoid an accident that was waiting for me up ahead. My perspective shifts from looking for ways that life is NOT loving me and finding plenty of evidence about that to looking for ways that life really does love me and finding a ...

I Am Whole! I Am Complete!

Posted 9/13/2011 12:00:00 AM

Every moment of every day we are given the opportunity to start over. Most of the time I don’t take that opportunity. I’m so entrenched in the anger or the drama of life that I don’t even see this as a possibility. My ego and Monkey Mind are so committed to the things about myself that I don’t want and yet there is a strong pull, an awareness of whom I can be. In this moment I can choose to be pain free even if everything around me is giving me evidence that my life is painful. When I can step out of the illusion I step into freedom and I step into all the love and abundance that is surrounding me every moment of the day. I’ve seen clients come in wracked with physical pain and grief step away from that and be pain free. I’ve also seen ...

The Past Is Over. It Can't Touch Me

Posted 9/2/2011 12:00:00 AM

Recently I heard a fantastic teacher share the phrase, “The past is over. It can’t touch me.” This resonated quite powerfully with me. I’ve been learning the deeper meaning of forgiveness and recognizing the freedom that comes from letting go of the past. When I let myself be identified by my past hurts and disappointments I am miserable. Holding on to the past, and carrying that around with you, is like walking around with an energetic psychic recording that everyone can hear even when you don’t speak it aloud. For me that recording was, “Hi, my name is Peter. I’m a former actor and dancer who never realized his dream. I was molested as a child and my leg was shattered just as I was reaching my prime as a dancer. I’ve lost jobs because I was openly gay and had a few abusive relationships.” UGH! When we hold on ...

Useful Anger

Posted 8/25/2011 12:00:00 AM

Sometimes it’s good to be angry! As a therapist I find myself often helping people to deal with their anger. They either hide it deep within themselves because they’re afraid of what might happen if they express it, or how they will be judge for being angry, and sometimes they have a never ending supply of it that seems to take them over and they are consumed by it. For me, anger has been a good thing. Like any emotion, anger is meant to be felt, processed, and released. Anger as an emotion isn’t a pure emotion. It’s often there as a mask for something deeper that we are refusing to deal with. For me, the anger I felt in my life was rooted in the feeling of not being good enough. There were lots of reasons for this and we can go into those at another time but ...